Paula Span has written a book entitled, "When the Time Comes." Excerpts from the book are summarized in an excellent article in today's Washington Post entitled "Their Parents' Keepers."
She mentions learning about options in elder care and having a conversation with your parents before they have a stroke or fall. What kind of care would your parents want, when the time comes? Who will you turn to for advice? In addition to family and friends, there are many geriatric care managers available in the Baltimore area.
... It might be several years before he needed assisted living, but he also might have a health crisis and need a nursing home next week. Uncertainty was built into the process. We prepare for other major changes in life (marriage, parenting, retirement), but this one, caring for our aging parents, seems to take us by surprise. It shouldn't: Two-thirds of seniors will need some form of long-term care. I hoped I could be at least semi-prepared.
Please comment with your challenges, rewards, and any books you might recommend regarding aging or caring for older adults.